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sorry for my lack of action as of late, i've been sick, but i was just browsing deviant art, when i found a stamp that was somehow related to self-harm. it wasn't the stamp that annoyed me, but there were hundreds of comments on the stamp that had people referring to some self-harmers as 'emo cutters'. i was just sitting here going, "W - T - F?".
reading those comments, and having dealt with people who have stupid ideas like this in my life before, i decided to make this stamp.

people rarely understand self-harm, and those who think they understand it, tend to be wrong. self-harm doesn't make you emo, and it doesn't necessarily mean you have a mental illness. it doesn't mean you're sad or upset, or even unhappy with your life. the reason someone self-harms is different from person to person. you can't just make assumptions about why someone is hurting themselves. of course there are a few people who will self-harm for the attention, but you've got to realise that there is a reason they feel the need to resort to such drastic means to gain some attention.

the majority of self-harmers do not want you to know about that part of their life. most self-harmers don't want to die, so there is never a reason to assume that they do. for a lot of people who self-harm, it grows to be an addiction and a mental illness in itself. it becomes something that they will live with for the rest of their lives. self-harm is a progressive illness.

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wwwarea Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2015
I was looking up emo after this, and I often get suggestions that it just means liking dark things and being emotional maybe.. Which doesn't actually sound bad..?
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Dumuzi-ouji Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2015
I recommend cutters get a good friend that'll listen to them and be there for them. Because friends helped me with depression, I didn't cut but talking to my friends helped me through it. Not all self harmers do it for attention 100% of the time though since you don't know why each individual does it necessarily. That's coming from someone who knew one of those attention whore self harmers too, literally jack-ass kind. But I understand these concepts that people all are different in their minds.
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MissAkari Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2014  Student Digital Artist
:'( Well...Why I can't tell my story?
My father insults calling me "asshole" "slut" and much else besides that, one day I went to feed my cat and hit me in the head...At what hurt me ... I also call "fucking Liar"...And I began to mourn, just when I had to go to class...Because of him I cut...
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ShadeWolfBuizel Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
This is one of the many reasons I have mixed feelings on emo people. They make those who actually have problems look like attention whores. Self harm isn't cool or beautiful, it's a cry for help.
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Dumuzi-ouji Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2014
The 'emos' who cut most of the time are posers. Emo itself is a fashion and music genre and most emos are just normal people.
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outmost433 Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2014
Oh my god yes people who do that are fucking pricks
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Ghoulish-Delights Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Two of my friends are emo and they both cut. One of my other friends isn't emo but still cuts. I'm not sure whether they have actual problems or they're attention seeking, because none of them bother to cover their arms up. I used to be emo but have never cut and never will. Have my two emo friends misunderstood what emo is (don't jump to conclusions, I know that 90% of emos don't cut, that's just what stereotypical assholes like to think) or is there something genuinely wrong with them?
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pukingpastilles Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
it's really hard to tell why someone is resorting to self-harm. sometimes people do it for attention, sometimes people do it just to see what it is like. the majority of the time someone is cutting there is something wrong. a lot of people resort to self-harm because they don't have any other coping mechanisms, or because they are struggling and don't know how to communicate what they are going through. generally when people don't cover it up they do want the attention, especially at your age. but it just depends what they want the attention for - whether it's because they feel like they need help to cope or because they want sympathy from people. either way, it's a very drastic measure to take in order to gain any sort of attention, and it definitely needs to be dealt with.

"emo" really is a fashion and it is music, but it has nothing to do with someone's mental health. it's just how you express yourself through your clothes and the music you listen to, but i personally don't like labels. i think it's better to steer clear of them and to just be yourself :).
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Dumuzi-ouji Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2014
'"emo" really is a fashion and it is music'

That's exactly what I keep talling wait talling? I mean telling everyone about.
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Ghoulish-Delights Featured By Owner Apr 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I think that's exactly what I'll do. Thank you very much. :)
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Its-A-Beautiful-Day Featured By Owner Feb 21, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I have a huge problem i have horrible dreams my friends are murders and want to kill me but when i'm out of the dream i go insane i just freak around some of my friends i hurt one of them because of it... it's not my fault i swear all these dreams i have every night each night my death gets worse i can't take it no more i don't know what to do the dreams make me feel that everyone around me wants to hurt me 
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Dumuzi-ouji Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2014
And you have a Higurashi icon. I think it's giving you nightmares hun. What you said sounds like the plot of Higurashi.
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clarahallenberg Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2014   Writer
i think its Miku; vocaloid... :)
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Dumuzi-ouji Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2014
She changed it. She had a Higurashi one before.
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clarahallenberg Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2014   Writer
oh, okay :)
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Aw, stay strong honey~
And, ya know, you should talk to somebody about this. I know it can seem scary and whatever, but once you do it will be so much better!
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Its-A-Beautiful-Day Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
No i can't
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Why not? :?
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Its-A-Beautiful-Day Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
because i just can't do anything about it. Everyone thinks i'm a bad person for offending my friends
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yes you can! Girly, I was in the same boat as you a long time ago, (granted it was different stuff but still the same general situation) and that's probably not true. I know it's hard and you think I'm just some person on the internet but ya need to talk to somebody! Like, even the school guidance councilor is a good choice. Just please, ok? :3
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Its-A-Beautiful-Day Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
ok 
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you :3
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Eternities22 Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Self-harm is sick, and anyone who does it loses my respect.
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crazygamerchix Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2014  Student Artist
Hey you! Yeah, you! No one asked for your opinion so dont state it.
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pukingpastilles Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
a lot of people don't understand it, but it generally does stem from mental illness, and it's a very serious issue that needs a wider understanding. i hope you don't have that attitude if anyone ever confides in you when they are struggling, because that person will need a friend.
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CoffeeKai Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014
Well aren't you kind? We don't enjoy the pain, it reminds us that we're still here when we're feeling numb, or when we feel like we're fading. 
I don't enjoy pain, yet I cut my wrists. 
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Eternities22 Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That is sick. That is absolutely, utterly sick.

Sorry, but it is impossible for to accept this, when it's this extreme, and that you can talk about it so easily.

You might think it's normal, or sane. It's not. It's a severe illness, and you NEED to get it sorted. YOU NEED HELP. Serious help. And if you refuse to get help and continue doing that repulsive, inhuman act of violence to yourself, I will refuse to be sympathetic.
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CoffeeKai Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014
It's not easy to talk about, but I can't sit back and let this happen. 

I know it's not normal, and I've been trying to stop. I was two months clean. 
I can't just snap my fingers and be cured, it's an addiction,  and a way to know that I'm still alive. 

I don't want your sympathy, I never asked for your sympathy. 
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marineliights Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
you aren't really fixing anything. people do self-harm for a reason, and trust me, you dont need to go apeshit on them for doing it.
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Eternities22 Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
For what reason? It's just horrifying. I mean, it must hurt them right? And they enjoy it? They ENJOY pain? They actually ENJOY the sensation of a sharp blade digging into their body. :fear: That's insane beyond words. If I ever found out someone I knew in real life was like that, I would never look at them the same way again. In my opinion, if someone does that, they need to go to a mental hospital and be locked away until they realise how sick they are. Otherwise,they do not deserve my respect. They don't respect themselves, so why should I respect them and their deeply disturbing hobby? It's a severe illness that disturbs me so much that I cannot accept it.
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GALAXIESx Featured By Owner May 1, 2014
It's a release. We don't enjoy it. None of us enjoy it, nobody here said that we enjoy it at all. Many actually do have reasons. Self harm is a coping skill that many people use to deal with situations, like a death, bullying, abuse, or any other bad thing. Your judging usually makes it worse, and is actually part of the reason many DON'T talk to others about it to try to get help, because they/we are afraid that we'll be judged like YOU are doing now. Also, it's NOT a hobby. It's not something people just do in their free time.
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Eternities22 Featured By Owner May 2, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah, well you're still mentally ill for even resorting to that. My best friend went through the tragic death of his father a few years ago, and he never started cutting. I was bullied relentlessly back in high school. I sometimes cried, but I never cut. Why would I want to make the pain WORSE? There is no logic in what cutters to do. To feel better, you should actually do something that makes you happy! Jesus Christ, this world is just backwards.

If you really think it's a normal response to tragedy, it isn't. It's sick and pathetic, and frankly impossible for me to accept. It's such an unconventional thing to do and such a horrible crime (against yourself) that I don't pity anyone that does it. It shows that you don't care about yourself, your family, or anybody at all, in fact. It's black-hearted. Cutting yourself is just as bad as injuring someone else. You know, right?
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GALAXIESx Featured By Owner May 2, 2014
It does help actually. It releases a chemical in your brain that temporarily takes away physical and mental pain for a little while. For some, they feel like they need to punish themselves for something that happened. And of course someone who resorts to self harm as a coping skill will be mentally ill. A completely normal person free of mental disorders wouldn't start cutting, unless it was for attention, then there is something else going on there.

Just because someone self harms, doesn't mean they don't care about anyone at all. I used to self harm, and I cared about my family and my friend a lot. The only person I didn't care about, was one you mentioned, myself. But I still cared and loved my family and friend so much.

Ok, you and your friend didn't start cutting. Is that supposed to mean something? Not everyone is like you.

It's just a bad coping skill. There are good ones, and there are bad. Simple as that. Some end up starting bad coping skills, like self harm, some start good ones, like writing, drawing, or anything else that makes them feel better. 

If you are going to post on a subject, please make sure you know exactly what you're talking about.
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marineliights Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
just because someone does self-harm doesn't mean they enjoy it. it's not your business if someone self-harms or not. you've really got the wrong thing going inside your head. if you hate something then it has power over you. assuming something whenever you don't know much about it is beyond stupid. most self-harmers don't even want to do it, but they find that it's the only way to relieve pain. they don't enjoy it. believe me, if someone actually was addicted to cutting then i would recommend them going to see someone or a therapist, but not so much they need to immediately go to a mental hospital. shit happens and you need to deal with it.
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Can you just please leave? Pretty please? Honestly, people who self harm and come back from it are a lot stronger than you just sitting behind a computer talking trash about people with a mental disorder. Thank you and goodbye.
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for making this stamp, and I'm sorry your getting some hate on it as depicted below. But your very right, self harm is different from person to person. And sometimes, like myself, it can be because your sad and upset. But not always. I find it incredibly disheartening that some people don't seem to understand what self harm entitles. And I'm not talking about just in the comments. I'm talking about real life. A while ago I was put in a mental hospital for suicidal thoughts, and one of the psychologists their asked me if I was emo and started to assume that I was. Just because I wasn't giving him the right answer he wanted to hear as to why I was sad at the time. I feel like this is a very serious issue that really needs to be addressed more, and that if you don't agree with this stamp please go do your proper research before making accusations. Thank you.
Oh, and I'm sorry about all this. I just needed to vent because some of these comments let me tell you.
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Eternities22 Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh shut up. Self harm is DISGUSTING and if you do it, it just makes me feel sick. How can someone do something so painful... it makes me pale to imagine it. :fear:
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Killuanatsume Featured By Owner May 11, 2015
JUST SHUT THE HECK UP!!!!!
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, not trying to be rude or start an argument but that is a rather hurtful statement. And honestly, I'm sorry your disgusted by self harm. And if that is true, why are you on a stamp about self harm? That is a little counter productive if you hate it so much. And honestly, I am hurt by your attitude. People self harm because for some reason they need to feel the pain to distract them from something else or just because they want the pain. And sometimes people do it so others can see the pain. However, self harm isn't good. People do need help if they do that to themselves, And I was not condoning self harm in any way if that's what you were thinking. I was just sharing a personal experience I had with people not understanding others with self harm. Now, this may sound rude, but what were you managing to accomplish by saying self harm is disgusting? Because all you did is make me want to talk about people don't understand people who do and how to properly help them even more.
Themoreyouknowson.
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HKA-4M7 Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014  Student Writer
I don't think anyone here is supporting the action of cutting, as much as they are supporting anyone who harms themselves to get help.
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VertoAtrum Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
It doesn't release any tension, it doesn't fix anything, it doesn't make things better. Self harm has no other purpose but trying to get attention.
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HKA-4M7 Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014  Student Writer
I believe the word in the dictionary you're trying to find is worded as "addiction".

"No, I'm not, I'm just telling it like it is. Cutters are fucked up and stupid and can stop any time they want. Throw the razor away, no more cutting. End of story, goodnight, the end."

Stand back psychologists and medical researchers, this guy has it figured out! They can just stop! It's that easy, no other factors go into it! They just "want" to!
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VertoAtrum Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist

Yes, it is that easy :) People just want to milk it for all it's worth and get pity.

Things you can't stop are sneezes, breathing, etc.

You can chose any time to put something down. Your hand is not stuck holding a razor to your arm. You do not have to cut yourself. Nothing is making you do it. There is no force manipulating you to mutilate yourself.

They need to go to a looney bin, where they can't find anything sharp, sit and think about their idiocy, and move on with their lives. Do you see 40 year olds cutting themselves? No. Do you see adult emos crying over their poor little lives? No. It's a teenage and young adult thing, where our hormones are causing mayhem. It will pass. It will stop. It's just teaching them how to grow the hell up first.












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HKA-4M7 Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Student Writer
No, but I see plenty of adults and older people in insane asylums and mental hospitals for various issues. I've seen reports of older people committing suicide, and self harming themselves. Do yourself a favor and study the actual psychology in it, and keep your personal beliefs to yourself. If it was that simple, there wouldn't even be a psychiatric field of study and research
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VertoAtrum Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist

I am studying phycology, and have been for many years. Don't try to act like 'm uneducated, because it make you look like an idiot. 

Why do people research disease? So they can cure them and eliminate from. Because they are harmful.

Why didn't you keep your personal beliefs you yourself and not have replied to me in the first place? You were the one brining this upon yourself.

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HKA-4M7 Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Student Writer
For a psychology researcher, you really are mature ;)

"Why didn't you keep your personal beliefs you yourself and not have replied to me in the first place?" Why did you reply to this stamp, and not keep your personal beliefs to yourself?
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VertoAtrum Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Because your ignorance was too idiotic to pass up. I had to put you in line before I let you leave ;P
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trapezist Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, I agree up until the part about attention.
I tried really hard covering up mine. I wanted nobody to see them. Self harm releases endorphins that make you feel happier, and you usually cannot feel the harming itself due to numbing of depression.
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VertoAtrum Featured By Owner Feb 20, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Just because something makes you happy for a few minutes does not mean you should ever do it. Drugs being a perfect example because they are just like cutting: pointless, harmful, and dangerous.
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trapezist Featured By Owner Feb 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yes, but also like drugs, it is an addiction.
It is found in people with psychiatric disorders. You're incredibly ableist.
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