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sorry for my lack of action as of late, i've been sick, but i was just browsing deviant art, when i found a stamp that was somehow related to self-harm. it wasn't the stamp that annoyed me, but there were hundreds of comments on the stamp that had people referring to some self-harmers as 'emo cutters'. i was just sitting here going, "W - T - F?".
reading those comments, and having dealt with people who have stupid ideas like this in my life before, i decided to make this stamp.

people rarely understand self-harm, and those who think they understand it, tend to be wrong. self-harm doesn't make you emo, and it doesn't necessarily mean you have a mental illness. it doesn't mean you're sad or upset, or even unhappy with your life. the reason someone self-harms is different from person to person. you can't just make assumptions about why someone is hurting themselves. of course there are a few people who will self-harm for the attention, but you've got to realise that there is a reason they feel the need to resort to such drastic means to gain some attention.

the majority of self-harmers do not want you to know about that part of their life. most self-harmers don't want to die, so there is never a reason to assume that they do. for a lot of people who self-harm, it grows to be an addiction and a mental illness in itself. it becomes something that they will live with for the rest of their lives. self-harm is a progressive illness.

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ClaudiaDraws Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
this goes for onision
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Winterfeline Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2016
I hate it when people find out you have depression and automatically assume you are emo. There is nothing wrong with being emo, but not all depressed people are emo and not all emos are depressed. Please understand that they are 2 separate groups, though they can overlap. 
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Wolfie-Waffles Featured By Owner May 13, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree with this stamp, people try to ask me if I'm emo JUST BECAUSE I WAS BORN WITH DARK HAIR AND I HAVE SCARS. It's really annoying, people don't realize that emo refers to the style of music & clothing, not if they cut or not. I actually had an emo friend in the past who was emo but never cut. Cutting doesn't make you emo, and emo doesn't make you a cutter. 

Cutting = Depression, anxiety, ect
Emo = A style/genre of music and dress.

Don't call me a liar because this is the definition of emo

a style of rock music resembling punk but having more complex arrangements and lyrics that deal with more emotional subjects.
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powder-sugar Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
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people don't realize how many "non-emo" folks there are out there who self-harm and have suicidal thoughts, etc.
Lord, I'M ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE.

(thankfully I've never cut myself or hurt myself on purpose out of my anxiety of getting hurt and bleeding wrists/arteries. mostly it's just emotional hurting and feeling worthless more than anything, like if I get a bad grade on a course or assignment. though i try to cope through things such as napping and cuddling with my stuffed animals and sometimes even by playing games on my 3DS or PC. thankfully the napping, cuddling and video games work a bunch for me)

I just HATE how people think stuff like self-harm is a joke. :(
Like. No. IT ISN'T.

It's a VERY SERIOUS MATTER.
I hope schools can be more resourceful for kids about things such as alternative coping methods for mental and emotional troubles.

[[ALSO: If anyone reading this post is going through any kind of crisis; PLEASE check out these links below for The Crisis Text Line and Samaritans MA Statewide Helpline. The Crisis Text Line is a free service across the US where you can talk to a live, trained Crisis Counselor about any type of crisis.

The Samaritans Helpline is a Suicide Prevention Helpline where you also can chat with a live, trained Crisis Counselor about any type of issue too. However, the Samaritans Helpline is applicable for Massachusetts and the Greater Boston and MetroWest areas only.

I'm leaving these links here as resources for anyone who needs to access them for any reason whatsoever.]]


Crisis Text Line [Across the US]: www.crisistextline.org/
Samaritans Helpline [for MA residents]: samaritanshope.org/
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blood-and-bandaids Featured By Owner Apr 6, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree. Emo is just a sense of style, and music. Coming from a fellow emo.
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Sekhmet-Ra-Ptah Featured By Owner Jan 16, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I have dermatophagia and the emos try to use it to be edgy and "wolf-biters" But its not cool or edgy. People think you are unclean, and disgusting for having it.
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ReclusiveChicken Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Too true. Someone I know says that they're an emo and says that they self-harm, but would they really say so if they did?
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persiancat111 Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
I agree. Anyone can self harm, emo or not. :/
Self harm is a serious thing, I don't know why people talk about it like that. *sigh*
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TransWeirdo Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2015  Student General Artist
I like this. I used to be in the emo trend, but I got pissed off when someone said, "You aren't emo if you don't cut." *Sigh* I wanted to strangle that person... Not the best thing to say for a recovering self-harmer, but then again, I rarely get triggered by this point. Fuck it.
When will society stop being so damn stupid?
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wwwarea Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2015
I was looking up emo after this, and I often get suggestions that it just means liking dark things and being emotional maybe.. Which doesn't actually sound bad..?
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Sarkshine Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Being Emo... it's not necessarily a bad thing; it's just a bad stereotype that it's associated with Suicide and cutting. It's really just a certain sense of style and music. A good example of "Emo" music would be a band called My Chemical Romance. Emo clothes are usually black and the like. Emos aren't necessarily emotional, though. But yes, they typically like dark things. I hope I helped :)
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Sarkshine Featured By Owner May 25, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Wait nope nope I'm an Idiot they ARE emotional
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PrinceDumuzi Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2015
I recommend cutters get a good friend that'll listen to them and be there for them. Because friends helped me with depression, I didn't cut but talking to my friends helped me through it. Not all self harmers do it for attention 100% of the time though since you don't know why each individual does it necessarily. That's coming from someone who knew one of those attention whore self harmers too, literally jack-ass kind. But I understand these concepts that people all are different in their minds.
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ThatDemonWolf Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2014  Student Digital Artist
:'( Well...Why I can't tell my story?
My father insults calling me "asshole" "slut" and much else besides that, one day I went to feed my cat and hit me in the head...At what hurt me ... I also call "fucking Liar"...And I began to mourn, just when I had to go to class...Because of him I cut...
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Sarkshine Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Maby you could keep a journal or something...? I know writing really personally helps me with things like that (my mum is a bitch), Maby it can help you too?
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ShadeWolfBuizel Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
This is one of the many reasons I have mixed feelings on emo people. They make those who actually have problems look like attention whores. Self harm isn't cool or beautiful, it's a cry for help.
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PrinceDumuzi Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2014
The 'emos' who cut most of the time are posers. Emo itself is a fashion and music genre and most emos are just normal people.
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outmost433 Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2014
Oh my god yes people who do that are fucking pricks
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Ghoulish-Delights Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Two of my friends are emo and they both cut. One of my other friends isn't emo but still cuts. I'm not sure whether they have actual problems or they're attention seeking, because none of them bother to cover their arms up. I used to be emo but have never cut and never will. Have my two emo friends misunderstood what emo is (don't jump to conclusions, I know that 90% of emos don't cut, that's just what stereotypical assholes like to think) or is there something genuinely wrong with them?
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pukingpastilles Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
it's really hard to tell why someone is resorting to self-harm. sometimes people do it for attention, sometimes people do it just to see what it is like. the majority of the time someone is cutting there is something wrong. a lot of people resort to self-harm because they don't have any other coping mechanisms, or because they are struggling and don't know how to communicate what they are going through. generally when people don't cover it up they do want the attention, especially at your age. but it just depends what they want the attention for - whether it's because they feel like they need help to cope or because they want sympathy from people. either way, it's a very drastic measure to take in order to gain any sort of attention, and it definitely needs to be dealt with.

"emo" really is a fashion and it is music, but it has nothing to do with someone's mental health. it's just how you express yourself through your clothes and the music you listen to, but i personally don't like labels. i think it's better to steer clear of them and to just be yourself :).
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PrinceDumuzi Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2014
'"emo" really is a fashion and it is music'

That's exactly what I keep talling wait talling? I mean telling everyone about.
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Ghoulish-Delights Featured By Owner Apr 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I think that's exactly what I'll do. Thank you very much. :)
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Its-A-Beautiful-Day Featured By Owner Feb 21, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I have a huge problem i have horrible dreams my friends are murders and want to kill me but when i'm out of the dream i go insane i just freak around some of my friends i hurt one of them because of it... it's not my fault i swear all these dreams i have every night each night my death gets worse i can't take it no more i don't know what to do the dreams make me feel that everyone around me wants to hurt me 
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PrinceDumuzi Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2014
And you have a Higurashi icon. I think it's giving you nightmares hun. What you said sounds like the plot of Higurashi.
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clarahallenberg Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2014   General Artist
i think its Miku; vocaloid... :)
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PrinceDumuzi Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2014
She changed it. She had a Higurashi one before.
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clarahallenberg Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2014   General Artist
oh, okay :)
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Aw, stay strong honey~
And, ya know, you should talk to somebody about this. I know it can seem scary and whatever, but once you do it will be so much better!
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Its-A-Beautiful-Day Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
No i can't
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Why not? :?
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Its-A-Beautiful-Day Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
because i just can't do anything about it. Everyone thinks i'm a bad person for offending my friends
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yes you can! Girly, I was in the same boat as you a long time ago, (granted it was different stuff but still the same general situation) and that's probably not true. I know it's hard and you think I'm just some person on the internet but ya need to talk to somebody! Like, even the school guidance councilor is a good choice. Just please, ok? :3
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Its-A-Beautiful-Day Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
ok 
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you :3
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Eternities22 Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Self-harm is sick, and anyone who does it loses my respect.
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Sephicreep Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2015
Shut the fuck up, yep I said it. Want me to say it once more? Self-harm isn't simply a "disturbing" hobby, self-harm is an unhealthy coping mechanism. People don't enjoy doing it, for fucks sake. You are incredibly dense about this subject, your stigma contributes to the self-destructive behaviour of some people. Also, people are not like you. No one's the same. So don't compare your own issues to others and beat them down because you're better at coping with it. Get the fuck outta here. Who do you think you are?

(P.S: They don't need your sympathy, I don't need your sympathy. You're a complete stranger, so you're completely unimportant to me.)
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crazygamerchix Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2014  Student Artist
Hey you! Yeah, you! No one asked for your opinion so dont state it.
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pukingpastilles Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
a lot of people don't understand it, but it generally does stem from mental illness, and it's a very serious issue that needs a wider understanding. i hope you don't have that attitude if anyone ever confides in you when they are struggling, because that person will need a friend.
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CoffeeKai Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014
Well aren't you kind? We don't enjoy the pain, it reminds us that we're still here when we're feeling numb, or when we feel like we're fading. 
I don't enjoy pain, yet I cut my wrists. 
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Eternities22 Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That is sick. That is absolutely, utterly sick.

Sorry, but it is impossible for to accept this, when it's this extreme, and that you can talk about it so easily.

You might think it's normal, or sane. It's not. It's a severe illness, and you NEED to get it sorted. YOU NEED HELP. Serious help. And if you refuse to get help and continue doing that repulsive, inhuman act of violence to yourself, I will refuse to be sympathetic.
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Sarkshine Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
They don't NEED your sympathy. If you think it's sick you can keep your bloody opinion to your self. I know it can seem disgusting and sick, but please attempt to understand; yes, anyone who cuts probably needs to see someone. No, it does NOT warrant being an asshole to them. Imagine this. Imagine you can barely summon the motivation to pull yourself out of bed. Imagine you constantly feel either burning self hatred and sadness, or absolutely nothing at all. Imagine the latter. Yeah. Meet depression. Now imagine you learn about a way to chase the numbness away for a little while, and the only price is some pain and a scar? Meet cutting. Yes, it's terrible. I know that. But please try to understand that is some people's way of coping with that numbness, even though it's not the best way.
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CoffeeKai Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014
It's not easy to talk about, but I can't sit back and let this happen. 

I know it's not normal, and I've been trying to stop. I was two months clean. 
I can't just snap my fingers and be cured, it's an addiction,  and a way to know that I'm still alive. 

I don't want your sympathy, I never asked for your sympathy. 
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marineliights Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
you aren't really fixing anything. people do self-harm for a reason, and trust me, you dont need to go apeshit on them for doing it.
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Eternities22 Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
For what reason? It's just horrifying. I mean, it must hurt them right? And they enjoy it? They ENJOY pain? They actually ENJOY the sensation of a sharp blade digging into their body. :fear: That's insane beyond words. If I ever found out someone I knew in real life was like that, I would never look at them the same way again. In my opinion, if someone does that, they need to go to a mental hospital and be locked away until they realise how sick they are. Otherwise,they do not deserve my respect. They don't respect themselves, so why should I respect them and their deeply disturbing hobby? It's a severe illness that disturbs me so much that I cannot accept it.
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ORE0S Featured By Owner May 1, 2014
It's a release. We don't enjoy it. None of us enjoy it, nobody here said that we enjoy it at all. Many actually do have reasons. Self harm is a coping skill that many people use to deal with situations, like a death, bullying, abuse, or any other bad thing. Your judging usually makes it worse, and is actually part of the reason many DON'T talk to others about it to try to get help, because they/we are afraid that we'll be judged like YOU are doing now. Also, it's NOT a hobby. It's not something people just do in their free time.
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Eternities22 Featured By Owner May 2, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah, well you're still mentally ill for even resorting to that. My best friend went through the tragic death of his father a few years ago, and he never started cutting. I was bullied relentlessly back in high school. I sometimes cried, but I never cut. Why would I want to make the pain WORSE? There is no logic in what cutters to do. To feel better, you should actually do something that makes you happy! Jesus Christ, this world is just backwards.

If you really think it's a normal response to tragedy, it isn't. It's sick and pathetic, and frankly impossible for me to accept. It's such an unconventional thing to do and such a horrible crime (against yourself) that I don't pity anyone that does it. It shows that you don't care about yourself, your family, or anybody at all, in fact. It's black-hearted. Cutting yourself is just as bad as injuring someone else. You know, right?
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ORE0S Featured By Owner May 2, 2014
It does help actually. It releases a chemical in your brain that temporarily takes away physical and mental pain for a little while. For some, they feel like they need to punish themselves for something that happened. And of course someone who resorts to self harm as a coping skill will be mentally ill. A completely normal person free of mental disorders wouldn't start cutting, unless it was for attention, then there is something else going on there.

Just because someone self harms, doesn't mean they don't care about anyone at all. I used to self harm, and I cared about my family and my friend a lot. The only person I didn't care about, was one you mentioned, myself. But I still cared and loved my family and friend so much.

Ok, you and your friend didn't start cutting. Is that supposed to mean something? Not everyone is like you.

It's just a bad coping skill. There are good ones, and there are bad. Simple as that. Some end up starting bad coping skills, like self harm, some start good ones, like writing, drawing, or anything else that makes them feel better. 

If you are going to post on a subject, please make sure you know exactly what you're talking about.
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marineliights Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
just because someone does self-harm doesn't mean they enjoy it. it's not your business if someone self-harms or not. you've really got the wrong thing going inside your head. if you hate something then it has power over you. assuming something whenever you don't know much about it is beyond stupid. most self-harmers don't even want to do it, but they find that it's the only way to relieve pain. they don't enjoy it. believe me, if someone actually was addicted to cutting then i would recommend them going to see someone or a therapist, but not so much they need to immediately go to a mental hospital. shit happens and you need to deal with it.
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Can you just please leave? Pretty please? Honestly, people who self harm and come back from it are a lot stronger than you just sitting behind a computer talking trash about people with a mental disorder. Thank you and goodbye.
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FallingNebula Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for making this stamp, and I'm sorry your getting some hate on it as depicted below. But your very right, self harm is different from person to person. And sometimes, like myself, it can be because your sad and upset. But not always. I find it incredibly disheartening that some people don't seem to understand what self harm entitles. And I'm not talking about just in the comments. I'm talking about real life. A while ago I was put in a mental hospital for suicidal thoughts, and one of the psychologists their asked me if I was emo and started to assume that I was. Just because I wasn't giving him the right answer he wanted to hear as to why I was sad at the time. I feel like this is a very serious issue that really needs to be addressed more, and that if you don't agree with this stamp please go do your proper research before making accusations. Thank you.
Oh, and I'm sorry about all this. I just needed to vent because some of these comments let me tell you.
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